Do you have Commitment Issues? You might be pushing away your Capricorn!
Have you started to look back on the history of your relationships only to realize that you could be cycling in and out of them without any thought whatsoever, almost seemingly sabotaging what could be a good thing? Or maybe, you’ve finally realized that you are afraid of commitment and may have some commitment issues?
What’s worse, you may already be with a great Capricorn man, but you’re worried you’ll get scared and start thinking about running away again from a potentially perfect relationship. You may be able to fix things before you push away your Capricorn. The first thing you need to do is to figure out if you do carry some pesky commitment issues around with you. Here are some signs or symptoms that you may have some underlying issues around commitment:
You go out of your way to find any and every possible reason the relationship won’t work out.
Do you see every little argument or every little flaw as a reason to end the relationship? The truth is, no one will be the kind of perfect you’re looking for. If you start actively seeking out negativities or doing things to bring out the worst in your relationship, just so you can end it, you may not be emotionally ready to have a partner.
You don’t allow the other person into your world.
In other words, you don’t invite him to meet your friends, share your hobbies, or even to spend time in your home. If you’re happier on your own than with your partner, it may not be the right match, or you may just not be ready.
You are afraid that your relationship will get to a deeper level, so you do what you can to stop it.
You avoid romance, intimacy, and any activity that would progress the relationship (like meeting their parents).
You have a hard time doing any one thing for extended periods of time outside of your relationships.
Do you often jump from job to job? Do you move around a lot? Do your friend groups constantly change? These could all be signs of underlying commitment issues.
You tend to look for others who are unavailable because you know the relationship won’t result in anything real or threatening.
You date losers, men who are already married, dating other people, players, cheaters, and one-time hook-ups.
You have never been in a serious long-term relationship.
You tend to judge other people’s relationships rather harshly, especially if you see how committed they are to each other. You think that people in long-term relationships are ‘trapped’ or ‘settling.’
You are extremely picky.
You don’t like the way they cut their hair, or that they don’t like certain foods, even the style of music they like. You could be subconsciously trying to find reasons not to have to be with someone or not to have to commit to them.
The list can go on. There are lots of signs and symptoms that you are afraid of committing. The downside of that is you might be pushing away your partner.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
If you have a Capricorn man with you now and you are afraid to take it to the next level, try to focus on how why you are attracted to your Capricorn. Remember all of the butterflies you had in your stomach when you first met, and how exciting it was to be attracted to them. This doesn’t mean that you should ever ignore negative behavior.
One technique you can try is to write down a list of things you like and don’t like about your Capricorn guy. Once you have this list, just spend some time rereading the things you don’t like. Are they superficial? Are they mostly about things like clothes, or how much money they make? These are external things. Are there things like how they treat you, or the way they speak to their family? These are internal things.
Separate the ‘Don’t Likes’ list into two categories, External things and Internal things. If the list of the Internal things is longer then you and your guy aren’t the best fit. If the list of the External things is longer then you may be being judgemental and unfair to your man!
Capricorns appear to be tame and docile but their mind is usually in overdrive. They are known to be overachieving workaholics because their mind just won’t stop turning. They tend to be very ambitious and driven, and at the same time, practical. They take things seriously and don’t like playing games or messing around. This is a man who is down-to-earth and focuses more on reality rather than the world of imagination. He is also traditional and can be shy, especially when it comes to acquaintances.
Capricorn men believe in love and treat it seriously and with respect. They believe in true love and will wait for the right one to come along. They are not known to be players or to flirt. When he finds his love, he will work hard to keep it. So when your Capricorn man loves you, he will do everything to keep you which is why if you really want things to work with this man, you need to have a hard look at the commitment issues you may be having so you won’t push him away. A steady partner and a true emotional commitment are what this man looks for.
Capricorn men love a woman who is independent. They cannot stand it if your life and schedule revolve around him. They respect women who have their own hobbies, life, career, dreams, and interests and who work hard to get those things. They also generally want a very balanced woman; someone who knows how to be sexy without demanding attention, spontaneous but not reckless, strong yet humble, and confident but not arrogant. Being a man who values logical and rational thinking very highly, they want a woman who can do the same. Someone who isn’t afraid to speak their mind and express her feelings. They look for balance; someone who isn’t too aggressive with her opinions that she becomes loud, argumentative, and obnoxious.
In general, a Capricorn man wants to commit, as they naturally seek out stability. They will be more than happy to support you and will love to take on the role of a provider and caregiver. The fact that he has already chosen you means he considers you someone with whom he can fall in love. You can expect that your Capricorn is likely in it for the long-run. If you are unable to commit then he may not be the right man for you.
If you have fallen for all the charming qualities your Capricorn man possesses and feel like you may have some commitment issues, try to work it out. If you’re worried about losing him or pushing him away, there is a solution. You can ensure that your almost perfect Capricorn is truly in love with you by unlocking his emotional core. By ensuring that he is ready to spend his life with you, you can take the time you need to work on your trust and commitment issues, without worrying if he’ll still be around when you’re ready. Make him love you forever, so you can take care of you with peace of mind. Learn how here, and start moving past this roadblock and onto your happily ever after.