4 signs your Scorpio Man might be distancing himself (+4 ways to win him back!)
You’re dating a Scorpio man, but things just seem a little off. Maybe he’s just not as attentive as he used to be or you’re not seeing him as often. It can seem like you’re never going to get him to crave you every second of every day, but it is possible. How can you tell if this is just the natural ebb and flow of life, or if he’s pulling away?
There are no clear-cut rules of thumb when dealing with a Scorpio man in a relationship. just as there are signs that a Scorpio man likes you, there are some guidelines to help you determine if the Scorpio man you love is pulling away on purpose. Here are 4 patterns that may indicate trouble.
He is available less often
You used to get together several times a week, and now it seems like you can barely get him to spend Saturday night with you. So, what’s going on?
Your Scorpio may have several reasons for this. He may genuinely be busy at work or with his family. He may have a friend going through a tough time. There are a million reasons why this behavior may be occurring.
But these are not excuses to treat you badly or to be disrespectful. If he doesn’t have time to see you, you deserve to know why. Especially if the reason why is simply that he doesn’t want to see you.
Scorpio doesn’t return calls or texts
There are no more smiley “Good morning!” messages, and you haven’t gotten a hot sext in ages. Why?
As the “new relationship energy” wears off, it’s natural for the cute messages to slow down. That is just the way it works. But if it seems like you’ve gone from a waterfall of communications to barely a trickle, there could be something else at work.
It’s possible that your Scorpio communicated a lot at the beginning of a relationship, even though it was not natural or comfortable for him. Then, as things progressed, he has slipped into his more natural self. For him, that may be a less-communicative state.
“But wait!” you’re saying, “That’s not fair! Mr. Scorpio that I got together with wanted to talk to me all of the time!”
This is also a great reason why you should never pretend to be anything you’re not just to get someone to be interested in you. No one can keep up that charade indefinitely. Not without a lot of bitterness, at least.
He is wearing clothes to bed
He used to sleep in the nude, and suddenly he’s wearing pajamas. What’s with that?
It may be something simple. For instance, winter is coming, and your cat has started sleeping under the covers. And now, your cat keeps putting his cold-wet-cat-nose on your Scorpio guy’s man-bits. Or it may be that he was never comfortable sleeping in the nude to begin with. You won’t know if you don’t ask.
He is not inviting you into his life or into his space
You used to hang out at his place and your home about evenly. Now, he always comes over to your house, even when you suggest you go to his. However, he still spends a lot of time at his house. And, you’re not invited over when he has his friends over.
So, what’s going on? There may be a perfectly logical explanation, such as his having recently acquired a new roommate who wanders naked around the house, leering at guests, while playing bad lute music. Or there might not be.
How to Get Scorpio back!
Well, now you’ve identified some unsettling patterns that you can your Scorpio have fallen into. What can you do about it?
Talk to your Scorpio
I’m always saying the same thing: If something is going on that you don’t understand, you need to talk about it, I don’t care if he’s a Scorpio or a Pisces or a Martian. It almost never works out to assume you know the answer because you’re hardly ever going to be 100% right. And I’ll add my favorite caveat: If he doesn’t know about a problem, it is unlikely to improve.
If your Scorpio is under stress, help support him (if you can)
If you talk to him, and he’s having problems with his nudist-minstrel-roommate, there may be things you can do the help. You can suggest that your Scorpio have a conversation about boundaries, or you can help him find a new place. It is not, however, your job to get into a confrontation with said nudist-minstrel-roommate for your boyfriend. Have you ever heard angry, indignant lute music? Trust me, no man is worth it.
Attacking a Scorpio rarely helps
Let’s put the shoe on the other foot for a moment. If you’ve been having some doubts about the relationship and pulling away a little bit, how would you react to his yelling at you, “Be closer to me!” It probably wouldn’t make you want to be closer. If anything, that might send a big red flag to you that maybe this person just isn’t the right one for you. Unfortunately, sometimes we don’t have complete control over our emotions. Yelling isn’t going to help, ever.
If you love your Scorpio, set him free
It sucks, and it hurts, but sometimes, the best thing you can do if he’s pulling away is to let him go. In the end, not all matches that start off fantastically last forever. In fact, the vast, vast majority of them do not.
It may be that he drifts away for a bit, figures out what’s going on, and drifts back. And if you’re still into him, that’s great. Conversely, he may drift away a little bit, and then you discover someone better, who you were truly meant to be with forever. You two may be better friends than lovers and your relationship will change shape. If you don’t want to be friends or want to keep him from drifting away there are ways to win him over. These tips are a great start, but there is one way really works. Don’t try this method if you’re not sure that you were meant to spend your life with your Scorpio. I know that if you truly love someone, you’d be willing to do anything for them. Try this trick today, and watch your Scorpio’s love for you grow stronger with each and every passing day.